Updated: May 6, 2020
Do you ever regret your decision to be with Shaka?
Anonymous from Atlanta, GA
I have no regrets. I knew going in that there was a possibility things wouldn’t work out. I hoped like hell that it would, of course, but I told myself that if it didn’t, I wouldn’t regret the time we shared with each other. I remember reading posts from women in the online forum I participated in back then and many of them felt used when the relationship ended. They felt like the guy had used them for their money or their companionship, which may have been true, but I vowed then that whatever happened, I wouldn’t have any regrets. I got to experience a love some people never get to experience. For the first time in my life I had someone I could be completely me with, someone I could tell all my secrets to, someone who saw greatness in me, someone who loved me like I’d never been loved before. For that, I am grateful. And of course, we created a beautiful little boy together. Our son Sekou is a reflection of the love we shared. I believe he is the reason why Shaka and I met and why we were so drawn to each other. He is my why.
In the end, I believe everything happens for a reason and there were some things I needed to learn to grow into the woman I am today. I am wiser, stronger, more confident, more grounded, more connected to the Creator… How could I regret this experience?